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13 March 2006 @ 11:52 am
A Potter question I'm pondering... your thoughts?  
Actual Harry Potter content in this LJ? Yeah, I know - stop the presses. I blame acejillian, though.

We know that the wizarding world has laws about keeping things secret from Muggles, lots of laws and all sorts of protections. We also know that there are loads of Muggleborn and half-blood wizards and witches. So the question is this - how do we reconcile these opposing ideas?

JKR gives us very little in the way of information on this. We hear a bit about both Harry and Hermione's experiences with their families (but not nearly enough about Hermione's, and Harry's is colored by the fact that the Dursleys are OMGWTFNO about the wizarding world). We know about Tom Riddle Sr's reaction to Tom's mother being a witch, but again, this is colored by the fact that she was using a love potion on him. We know about Seamus Finnigan's parents, but only in that his father was surprised to find out.

What I'm wondering is this - how do you handle getting to know a Muggle intimately if you're a witch or wizard? You're not allowed to tell at first, and there's nothing in canon to suggest when you're allowed to reveal the truth. After you're engaged? Married? Do you have to get permission from the Ministry first? More importantly, what does that do to the relationship? You've kept this secret for months or years, and suddenly you have to tell the person you love that you aren't who they always thought you were - and it's a rather shocking secret to have kept, considering Muggles don't believe in magic.

So... there it is. Thoughts? Feel free to pimp this out - I'm quite curious as to what others think.
I feel: curiouscurious
Founding member of the Rotfang Conspiracy: Ebil Triobekkio on March 13th, 2006 07:04 pm (UTC)
I think there's a certain point in a RL relationship when you dare to discuss a certain peculiar habit with a friend. I would compare it to when I would disclose my HP habit to my work colleaugues, you wait until there's some measure of trust, and you take the chance that they're accepting.

I suppose if the Muggle reacts badly to it all, you can always Obliviate them. ;)
Alone in this crowded room: annearchy by myrafurannearchy on March 13th, 2006 08:57 pm (UTC)
Good point!
Jordan Catalano: Chris2prettyveela on March 14th, 2006 05:16 am (UTC)
I'm curious too. Maybe the ministry has a rule that allows you to tell them after you're married. I think they'd probably wait till after they're married to tell their significant other.

Then again, what if your wizard wife/husband dies? Are they bound to not tell anyone else? Hmmm now I'm pondering this! XD
wandmakerwandmaker on March 14th, 2006 05:30 am (UTC)
I think it's like a "Bewitched" thing...you know, on the wedding night: "Um, honey...there's something you should know..."

I mean, I assume that's how it works - 'cause if you told everybody you were seriously dating that you were a wizard, and then you broke up, it'd be a real pain the butt obliviating them.

As long as we're on the subject of obliviating...it's a cool way to get rid of lousy blind dates and crappy boyfriends.

Anyhow, where was I? Right. Telling the muggle. Well, remember that a large number of wizards don't date outside the wizarding world. And if you recall how insular that world can be, you're less likely to deal with muggles on a daily basis unless that's where your life choices take you. But I believe the situation with Muggleborn witches and wizards is that they mustn't discuss it outside the family. If you recall Petunia's rant in the first HP book, she was well aware of her sister's invitation to Hogwarts and resented how delighted it made the family. She told Vernon because he's aware of it even before Harry shows up on their doorstep.

Yeah, revealing your magical self to a potential spouse can be unpredictable, but consider that the witch or wizard has also taken a leap of faith. First, that this other person will fit into his or her world, and secondly, that the muggle will accept it. Remember how Seamus used the words "bit of a nasty surprise" to describe his father's reaction to the revelation? And this took place "after they were married."

So, I think the deal is, you don't tell anyone unless you have a really vital reason (life or death, marriage, etc.) Then you've also got to tackle the hurdle of disbelief, followed by a magical display of proof. I can't help but think that the wizard fiance doesn't test the waters first, early in the relationship, to see if the other person doesn't harbor any anti-witchcraft prejudice.

Personally, I think it would be totally hot to have a magical spouse.