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22 December 2004 @ 05:23 pm
Look what I got for Xmas - a mention on the hate meme!  
You know, I never really expected I'd have to make a post like this. I don't think anyone has ever mentioned me in one of these anonymous hatefests before - or if I was mentioned before then no one told me. I don't read these things (I think I've posted enough in the past on my feelings on things like this crap) so I had no idea until someone told me and linked me to it. In any case, I'm actually not that shocked. I'm not angry - more disgusted at how low some people go. But I do feel that perhaps this needs to be aired, so to see what was said about me, click the link. Be warned, however, that the subject matter is in no way work safe.

The Thread.

So. Wasn't that lovely? From what I've read here, I really don't think that the people posting are on my friendslist. But, if by some chance I'm wrong and you did post one of the nasty things that was said, here is my invitation to use that handy-dandy DEFRIEND option and not let the door hit you on the way out. The majority of my posts about zorac and our breakup are not only friendslocked but filtered to people who I was fairly certain I could trust, but there have been a few posts that are unlocked that mention the breakup. If I misplaced that trust, you ARE on my friendslist, and you have other important things to do - like post about me in this cowardly fashion rather than say something to my face - please do us both a favor and defriend me already.

The thought occurred to me that I could attempt to educate people who are so moronic, but I have to tell you that a) I think the people who posted this sort of thing don't care and don't want to understand, and b) I have far too many more important things to do with my time. It's no secret that I'm fat, but the absolutely disgusting comments about my body and my sex life were really offensive. That wasn't just crossing the line - that was going over it with a steamroller. I suppose the saddest thing is that nothing said there was something I hadn't heard before, so on top of being disgusting, you cowards aren't even original.

I appreciate the anons who were defending me, although I think you realize that I don't agree with your opinions of zorac. But you're allowed to have those opinions as long as you can be respectful about it. I know there are people on my friendslist who don't know zorac at all beyond the fact that he broke up with me, so your bias is understandable and not malicious, I believe.

In summation, anyone who made those nasty comments can kiss my big, huge, fat ass and get off my friendslist if you're on it. And I'm done.
 
 
I feel: cynicalcynical
 
 
 
Latter-day Jezebelnmalfoy on December 22nd, 2004 11:34 pm (UTC)
Wordy McWord. Luckily, the only thing I got attacked for was my writing, really. And sadly, that's a "lucky" thing. What they said about you is so many degrees of fucked up and mean and just plain hateful that I don't know where to begin. I'm staggered that people can be so cruel, and sadly, I shouldn't be.


Vickihermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:21 am (UTC)
I know. I really have no idea what I did to deserve such rancor. *hugs*
Alex: Green Chimneytitanic_days on December 22nd, 2004 11:37 pm (UTC)
They are c**ts, you are wonderful, I am sick of this shit. That about sums it up.

*sends love*

Vicki: Chibi!Me Fullhermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:21 am (UTC)
*loves back* Thanks sweetie.
wordplay on December 22nd, 2004 11:40 pm (UTC)
Yeah, you know my thoughts on this. See icon for details.

I also think you are fabulous for taking a moment to speak up for Mark. Lovely, lovely you.
Vicki: Chibi!Mehermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:22 am (UTC)
*hugs*

I speak only the truth - he is a lovely person.
morgaina on December 22nd, 2004 11:42 pm (UTC)
Ridiculous. Just ridiculous. I got your card by the way, and it was lovely!! I'll try to ring you later this evening for a little positive venting.
Vicki: Fiona by Sophiehermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:23 am (UTC)
Yay for cards! If you want to ring, I will be driving for 3 hours to middle-of-nowhere IL so basically after 11:30 am or so your time if you're able. If you can't, not a problem. *hugs*
ex_seviet on December 22nd, 2004 11:42 pm (UTC)
That was really, really fucked up. I have no words, really. Cowardy bastards.
Vicki: Who me??hermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:25 am (UTC)
Thanks - it really is totally fucked up. Is now a good time to beg you for art? Since you are feeling sorry for me and all. *flutters eyelashes* JUST KIDDING! *grin*
(no subject) - ex_seviet on December 24th, 2004 12:31 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - hermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:56 am (UTC) (Expand)
Loony Loopy Lea Lovegoodchickadilly on December 22nd, 2004 11:44 pm (UTC)
OMG. I feel like a broken record because I keep saying how I don't think I can be anymore shocked and dismayed by the actions of people in that meme and then I am.

As someone who also struggles with weight issues I find all of those comments vile, nasty, mean spirited and just hurtful.

*hugs*
Vicki: Hold me!hermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:26 am (UTC)
Yes, they were totally vile. But they'll get their comeuppance someday, I'm sure.

*hugs*
Moonaloon: angrymoondroplette on December 22nd, 2004 11:51 pm (UTC)
There are some seriously craptastic people out there. I'm so sorry. That meme seems to have inspired next-to-nothing good.

Fuckers.
Vicki: *SIGH*hermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:27 am (UTC)
I think those memes rarely do, and the people who perpetuate them need to have a long, hard look at why they want to surround themselves with such negativity.
winter is coming, so don't stab your sister: angry!harry  (glockgal)ceilidh on December 23rd, 2004 12:00 am (UTC)
I was angry about what was said about me, but what was said about you was completely over the line and totally uncalled for. I hope if anyone on MY flist is reading this - if they were the ones who said it, I hope they get the hell off my flist. I don't want to know them at all.

I'd much rather know YOU.

*hugs*
Vicki: Harry/Ronhermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:28 am (UTC)
I want to know you, too! *hugs*
now with 50% more irony: eff offkatrionaa on December 23rd, 2004 12:39 am (UTC)
Oh look, school's out and a bunch of people seem to have little to do in their sad pathetic lives but sit alone in their rooms and try to make themselves look important by putting down others.

The rest of us know who has earned respect and offers valid opinions and it isn't some group of anonywhiners. *hugs*
heidi∞heidi8 on December 23rd, 2004 12:46 am (UTC)
Happens every year 'round this time. It's a vortex of suck & I'm sorry it dragged you in.
(no subject) - katrionaa on December 23rd, 2004 01:09 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - hermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:30 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - heidi8 on December 24th, 2004 12:35 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - hermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:58 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - hermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:29 am (UTC) (Expand)
I am the man that makes the bhaji go away: snowgolfmalachan on December 23rd, 2004 12:40 am (UTC)
Man. That stuff is just horrible. I hate those anons.

And I hate, hate samenashi. She is a rotting carcass host to swarms of poisonous insects. If she had any shred of decency she would delete those comments as soon as she saw them. I am so tempted to follow Heidi.
dejaspirit on December 23rd, 2004 02:14 am (UTC)
And I hate, hate thewhiteprophet. She is a rotting carcass host to swarms of poisonous insects. If she had any shred of decency she would delete those comments as soon as she saw them. I am so tempted to follow Heidi.

What he said.
(no subject) - hermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:33 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - malachan on December 24th, 2004 08:22 pm (UTC) (Expand)
Muddle-headed Kaymhw on December 23rd, 2004 01:17 am (UTC)
The world's full of idiots, I'm afraid.

But why did you go and look? If someone told me that that kind of thing was going on about me, I don't think that I'd bother looking (and I'd feel more than a little puzzled why someone had chosen to tell me, given that they might expect it to be upsetting).

If someone doesn't like me, that's fine. That's up to them. If they don't like what I do, or say, again that's fine. It's up to them. However — and it's a big 'however' — if they haven't the guts or the decency to tell me so in person, without hiding behind a mask of anonymity[1], well, I've seen soap bubbles full of helium with greater weight than such opinions would have for me.

Then again, I'm an arrogant, hard-hearted bastard with more than enough sense of self-worth for that kind of stuff to drip off me. *shrug*

The creeps who wrote that stuff are wrong, and stupid, and cruel, and I won't go anonymous to say so. I've had the pleasure of knowing you, and I know I'm right :D

[1] Not that I think that anonymity is in itself a bad thing; it has legitimate uses. Cowardice, however, is not one of them.
Vicki: Chibi!Mehermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:39 am (UTC)
But why did you go and look? If someone told me that that kind of thing was going on about me, I don't think that I'd bother looking (and I'd feel more than a little puzzled why someone had chosen to tell me, given that they might expect it to be upsetting).

That's a perfectly reasonable question, and luckily enough, I can explain it. I'm the type of person who, while being rather optimistic overall, does tend towards pessimism when I'm not told all the facts. So in a situation like this, where all I was told was that I was mentioned and given the link to the thread, seeing what was really said is not nearly as bad as what I can come up with in my own mind. I'm the same way when someone says "We need to talk," or that they'll tell me something later, or whatever. I always assume the worst in such cases. I don't know why, since I tend to be almost Pollyanna-ish in my "Let's all get along!" ways the rest of the time. But suffice it to say, I know myself and I knew it would be worse if I didn't look.

Other people have questioned why someone told me - and a number of people said they knew and didn't tell me. The person who told me 'outed' herself in the comments here, and I really think she just thought I'd want to know. Truthfully, I think I'm glad she did tell me, but these things are awfully hard to make a judgement call on. Maybe if different things had been said, I wouldn't have wanted to know. I can't say.
(no subject) - mhw on December 24th, 2004 01:13 am (UTC) (Expand)
The Thing Itself and not the Mythladyrelaynie on December 23rd, 2004 01:23 am (UTC)
*friends you* What asses. But then you knew that already.

~Relaynie
Vickihermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:40 am (UTC)
Thanks, and welcome!
Improbable Girlstarcrossedgirl on December 23rd, 2004 02:28 am (UTC)
Amen. I've just been plain disgusted by this whole thing, especially as I had to consider so much more important matters recently. And they rubbish on about all sorts of shit, and think it's funny.

*hugs and thinks you're a lovely person, even though she doesn't know you that well*
Vicki: Catherine - CSIhermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:42 am (UTC)
Thanks. You and me both on the having more important things to do with our time. *hugs to both you and Greg and hopes for a nice holiday*
Jordan Catalanoprettyveela on December 23rd, 2004 03:18 am (UTC)
I know there are people on my friendslist who don't know zorac at all beyond the fact that he broke up with me, so your bias is understandable and not malicious, I believe.

*grins sheepishly* I already showed you the comment I made in that thread and it was out of emotion for you more than anything. I immediately thought that some of his friends were doing the posting so my emotions were in that post.

*sigh* I guess painful breakups have a knee jerk reaction for me since it hits close to home. :(


In summation, anyone who made those nasty comments can kiss my big, huge, fat ass and get off my friendslist if you're on it. And I'm done.


*dies* DAMN STRAIGHT!

Vicki: Juliet largehermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:44 am (UTC)
*grins sheepishly* I already showed you the comment I made in that thread and it was out of emotion for you more than anything. I immediately thought that some of his friends were doing the posting so my emotions were in that post.

It's okay - you don't know me that well yet, so you probably don't realize that most of his friends are my friends as well - I met them around the same time (if not before in some cases) as I met him, and no one is doing the 'choosing sides' thing because our breakup really is amicable and they are cool people anyway. I do appreciate being defended.
(no subject) - prettyveela on December 24th, 2004 08:48 pm (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - mhw on December 24th, 2004 01:06 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - prettyveela on December 24th, 2004 08:49 pm (UTC) (Expand)
cute, in a dumb guy with a dream kinda way.: I LOVE LJ.skyfading on December 23rd, 2004 04:40 am (UTC)
I saw that, and well, I hope karma bites them in the ass this christmas.

♥.
Vicki: Don't mess with the bookwormhermorrine on December 24th, 2004 12:46 am (UTC)
I'm hoping karma will bite them in the ass for the entire new year, because I'm generous like that. ;)

I need to learn how to make the heart again. <3
(no subject) - jiggery_pokery on December 24th, 2004 02:28 am (UTC) (Expand)
(no subject) - skyfading on December 24th, 2004 04:52 am (UTC) (Expand)