August 19th, 2003


Is being cruel to be kind - in the right measure - a very good sign?

It is amazing to me that so many people seem to believe that being in love means some amount of hate must be involved. You know the cliche I'm talking about - they argue, fight, scream and then fall kicking and biting into TWWWUUUEEEE LUUUBBBBEEE and suddenly, it's all sunshine and roses.

Yeah, sure.

Has that ever happened to anyone in real life? I really rather doubt it. If someone drove me insane by being a complete asshat, why exactly would I want to spend more time with that person? And if that jerk is treatly me like crap, why would I even put up with it? How does that change from "moron" to "dreamboat" happen? I just can't see it. It's not practical, it's not realistic, and frankly, it's not pleasant. I cringe when I read about it; I wince when I see it on TV or the big screen. Yes, little kids who have crushes will pick on their crush - but that is a sign of immaturity - they don't know how to express what they're feeling. Why would people want to read/watch/etc a story about other people caught in arrested emotional development? I'm not saying that people who love each other never argue, but what I am saying is that love can't be built on arguments alone. Real passion does not come from detesting someone.

If you have a true story of this sort of situation working, do let me know. Otherwise, I will continue to operate on my educated opinion that this is nothing but a worn-out cliche.

This seemingly out-of-nowhere rant brought to you by Nick Lowe and a night of reading fanfic. Keeping me away from both in the future... most likely impossible, but viewer discretion is advised.
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